Kate Winslet on Sam Mendes divorce: 'I'm soldiering on'
"As a woman, especially when you have children, one gets so good at soldiering on - almost too good," she tells the mag. "I realise that I probably had very few moments of allowing that sadness to emerge - I kept pushing it away, not even really sharing it a huge amount with friends. Because you know what it's like - as soon as you open that can of worms, it's so big, you wish you'd never taken the goddamn lid off."
She says that a special friend of hers reminded her that it's okay to be emotional when you need it. "I've had to remind myself to have those moments of being able to have a good cry, but it did take someone putting their hand on me - a gay male friend, actually, who put his hand on my shoulder, and said, 'It's OK, you can cry about this, and maybe you should.'"
In fact, Winslet may owe some of her recent success to the emotions associated with the divorce, particularly with the critically acclaimed "Mildred Pierce." "There's a scene where Mildred and Bert are divorced and they sit down together, because they've got to settle on a cause. The first stage of my divorce with Sam came through on that day - on the very day that we were shooting. So that scene is nothing to do with acting."