Michelle Williams 'respectful of the absence' left by Heath Ledger, 'Blue Valentine' a cautionary tale

michelle-williams-marie-claire.jpgIt's been nearly three years since the passing of Heath Ledger, but for his daughter and former fianceé, the emptiness is still painfully obvious.

In an interview with Marie Claire, "Blue Valentine" star Michelle Williams opens up about life with her daughter Matilda, minus Ledger.

"Very obviously, for me and her, there's a hole in our life," the actress says. "Of course the natural inclination is to want to fill it and make it disappear, but what I've come to recently is that it's impossible."

She continues, "Nothing will fit in that hole because what we want back there we can't get, which is this one person. I'm not going to rush anything and scamper around like a mad person and make myself crazy. I'm trying to be respectful of the absence. I'm not trying to fill it up. It is what it is."

Since Ledger's death, Williams has been romantically linked to director Spike Jonze, and has been rumored to be involved with her latest costar, Ryan Gosling.

"My poor mom really wants me to meet someone," the 30-year-old explains. "I think she wanted to believe the Ryan Gosling rumor more than anybody."

Understandably, the Golden Globe nominated actress doesn't view the world of love through rose-colored glasses.

"The idea that you can get everything you want from one person is destructive," she sighs. "Maybe when you accept that the number is closer to 50 or 60 or 70 percent, that's when you can start to make some progress in choosing the right person. I don't want to make a mistake that big, and that saddens me, because it's harder to let yourself go."

A child of divorce herself, Williams plays one half of a young couple in a failing marriage in her latest flick.

"I think of 'Blue Valentine' as a cautionary tale -- what happens when you stop paying attention to the reasons you loved each other in the first place," she says. "When you let the devil that's in the details eat away at the love."

William's Marie Claire cover hits newsstands Jan. 18. "Blue Valentine" is now playing in select theaters nationwide. 
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